mandorways asked you:I’ve always thought that Cat’s disdain for Jon was more about the secret than infidelity itself. I think she would’ve coped with Ned having a bastard much better, if he’d just told her who was the mother. Because it must’ve hurt that Ned didn’t seem to trust her enough. It implied that he had some really strong feelings towards this woman and even after all those years of marriage with Cat, they seemed to remain the same.
Yes, I think the whole situation would’ve been a lot better if Ned had just been upfront with Catelyn about Jon’s parentage. I don’t recall if it ever even occurred to him in AGoT, but I don’t think it did. Ned is a great guy in a lot of ways, but he wasn’t smart when it came to the Cat-Jon situation. I think he just wanted to pretend it didn’t exist.
caffediansia asked you:I think a lot more is IMPLIED in Cat and Jon’s interactions than was actually shown on the show (or in full scenes in the books). The way she stops smiling and glares when her gaze moves from her children to him in the first episode. The way he obviously has always felt uncomfortable at Winterfell, and not because of the way Ned or his siblings treat him. I would never say that Cat is unjustified in her feelings… but there is clearly a lot of pain and ostracism between those two.
great-banshee asked you:
It may be a factor, though I’ve always liked Jon (and of course Kit is adorable) and I’m not immune to his faults. But yeah, Cat was acting very normally for her society. She was raised to view bastardy in a certain way. The fault would be in the society. Westeros isn’t progressive. House Martell has the best attitude about their bastards, but the Dornish are viewed as being eccentric and wild, when we would just think they’re being decent, loving people.